…Everybody’s happy, everybody’s free!  We’ll keep the big doors open, everyone’ll come around!

Wow!  I have been waiting SEVENTEEN months to write this post.  The post that makes everything I have been doing in the past seventeen months just a little bit more real.  The post that will take us from “two months ’til our wedding!” to “___ days ’til OUR WEDDING!!”  The time.  The effort.  The sleepless nights.  The thousands of emails.  They were all worth it.  Every minute.  We haven’t even had our wedding yet – and I already know it will be exactly what we’ve always wanted!

Now, this month’s checklist is quite a hefty one – so let’s get down to it!

  • Grooms: If you are renting a tux, visit the formalwear shop to get measured.
    • Check!  All the measurements for all the men have been sent off to Wendy and she ordered the kilts a few weeks ago!  I still cannot believe how much back-and-forth there was!!  I’m pretty sure we decided…and re-decided…on kilt colors, ties, etc. about 12 times!!
  • Brides: Confirm delivery date for your wedding dress and schedule your dress fittings.
    • Yes, a couple Saturday’s ago was my official first dress fitting and it went off perfectly!!  I am expecting to pick up my slightly altered dress on the 29th of May!  Just in time for Mama & Papa to take it with them!
  • Submit your newspaper wedding announcement.
    • This will get done…but not until after we’re married.  Seems a little silly to do it beforehand!
  • Grooms: Buy gifts for your best man.
    • Eh, let’s just say that I have asked him about this!!  His simple responses is “nothing”.  I don’t think he quite understands the etiquette here!
  • Decide on what type of guest book you want.
    • Good thinking!!  I had totally forgotten about this!!!  Maybe I’ll check out Etsy and see what they have in store…
  • Finish and print ceremony programs.
    • Ugh…dragging my feet.  Yes, I have them started – but what I have started is measly in comparison to what needs to be done!!!  I just need to set aside a date to DO IT.  Of course, it’d also help, too, if I have all the songs in order.  That’s a fiasco in and of itself!  But Wendy is working diligently on it and I’m sure she’ll have some solutions soon!
  • Send out rehearsal dinner invitations.
    • Well, instead of doing this, we’re making OOT Boxes!!!  I am SO beyond excited about them.  I sincerely hope they are a token of our appreciation for everyone who has gone through a lot to make it to our wedding!!  Within the OOT box will be an itinerary for the week – which includes the invitation to the rehearsal dinner!
  • Have your hair and makeup trial runs and finalize your wedding day beauty appointments.
    • Well, I have those appointments scheduled, but obviously we can’t exactly do them until we get there!!  I’ll consider it a check!!!
  • Get the marriage license and make appointments for blood tests (if necessary).  Check when the license expires.
    • Well, isn’t that special.  Fortunately, no, we won’t need a blood test, but we do have an appointment for 8:30 am on June 1st to “get our marriage license”…
  • Work on a “must-play” wedding song list.
    • Check!  We’ve been doing this for a few months now and I think we’ve got about 4 hours of music…which is way too much in my opinion.  We’ll also have to work on this for the reception here…but I’m not worrying about that until June 20th!
  • Pick up wedding rings and check the inscriptions before you leave the store.
    • Well, no inscriptions, but we did pick up the rings eons ago! Check!!
  • Discuss your ceremony music with musicians and agree on final choices.
    • Discussions have occurred and we are currently working on final selections.  Most everything is okay, we just need a couple more prelude songs.
  • Confirm wedding-night and honeymoon reservations.
    • Check!!  I have all the paperwork and will be making the final deposit on Saturday!
  • Brides: Shop for all additional accessories like stockings, earrings, a clutch, etc.
    • Check!!  Got the earrings for Christmas, wearing Mom’s pearl necklace, got the bracelet a couple weeks ago, along with the clutch and hair accessories.  I’d say I’m good to go!
  • Confirm that your homeowner’s or renter’s insurance covers your rings and gifts.
    • We’ll probably wait on this until we get home…when we’re actually Neil & Amanda Barnes!
  • Schedule a follow-up meeting or phone call with the officiant to go over ceremony timing and details.
    • Isn’t that what the REHEARSAL is for?!  Check!
  • Wrap all gifts for the wedding party and write each attendant a nice note.
    • I’ll get around to it – promise!  It’ll probably wait until after we’re in Scotland though!
  • Brides: Pick up your wedding dress.
    • May 29th!  It’s all mine!!!
  • Brides: Make sure you have your garter and  your “something old, new, borrowed, and blue” if you want to include these customs in your wedding.
    • Check!  Stay tuned for a fun little post about that!!
  • Call or email wedding party to relay critical information related to rehearsal and wedding.
    • Hello!! OOT Boxes?!
  • Brides: Get your final haircut.
    • Tomorrow. 10:30 AM.  I’m ON it!
  • Work out wedding day timing and details and draw up a day-of schedule.
    • Currently working on it.  I am hoping to give each person their own so they know exactly what to expect for “their part”!!
  • Finalize and special preferences, readings, or other ceremony details with your officiant.
    • He’s been over everything and has given it all the big check-a-roo!!  He’s been so easy to work with – I can’t complain!!!
  • Get a head start on those thank-you notes.
    • I don’t really know what thank-you notes I should be writing…we haven’t gotten anything that hasn’t already been “thank-you’d”.  Hmm…maybe they know something I don’t….?!
  • Do all paperwork for official documents if you are changing  your name.
    • The Knot must just know things I don’t.  I read through the “changing your name” article and pretty much I can’t do squat until after we have the marriage certificate.  Oh well…we’ll consider it a check because pretty much, I’m changing my name.  Hate to break it to ya, Mom and Dad, but “Arnold” hasn’t necessarily “defined me as a person…Amanda, yes, but I’m okay either way!
  • Have your bridal portraits or boudoir photography session, if you decide to get one.
    • Eh, I think the photos on the day of are enough…I’m not that full of myself that I need a bajillion photos!
  • Call your reception site manager and make sure your vendors all have access to the site when they need it.
    • Ugh! Don’t get me started.  We don’t even have a menu finalized yet… Enough said.
  • If you’re having a receiving line, determine the order you want everyone to stand in.
    • Uh…all 16 of us?!  Yeah, I don’t think it’s t hat big of a deal!!
  • Call guests who haven’t RSVP’d for the wedding and rehearsal dinner.  It’s okay to do this, you need a final head count!
    • Well, I know the people going to Scotland…once the reception rolls around a little closer, I’ll get on this!
  • Brides: Pick up your veil or headpiece.
    • Check!
  • Brides: Practice walking in your wedding shoes.
    • Oh, my flats?!  Ha!  Check!!
  • Determine any wedding day assignments for members of the wedding party, and make lists/info sheets as needed.
    • Ohhh, I am on it!!  I love lists and info sheets!!!  Don’t you worry your little head…
  • Give final head count to the caterer.  Confirm all catering set-up instructions and menu items.
    • Head count: check!  Menu items: for another day…
  • Confirm head count, delivery time, and reception location with your cake baker.
    • Ahh…the luxury of having Wendy.
  • Put together the reception seating plan if you’re having a seated reception meal.
    • Scotland: that’s pretty easy.  Here: We’ll have to wait until we have more RSVPs.
  • Buy materials for and make or buy escort cards.
    • Again…only needed for our reception here.  I’ll do it once we return.  I am really not too concerned with our reception here!!  Let’s get one thing out of the way, first!
  • Treat your bridesmaids to a traditional bridesmaids’ tea, a party at your place, or just cocktails to thank your attendants for all their help.
    • Oh, I’m sure we can find some very traditional tea once we get abroad!!!

Wow!!  That was a lengthy one!!!  I think we’re pretty much set…  I am ready to get this show on the road!  I am ready to step into my wedding dress.  I am ready to walk down the aisle to my best friend.  I am ready for it all…I just cannot wait any longer!

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